Surrogacy can be an incredible experience for so many women, and has become a subject of fascination and hope for many. Unfortunately, despite its growing popularity and acceptance, many myths and misconceptions still surround surrogacy.
Let’s debunk some of the top myths that we hear about surrogacy to provide a more clear understanding of this incredible journey.
Myth 1: Surrogacy is Only for the Rich and Famous
Fact: While high-profile surrogacy cases involving celebrities like Kim Kardashian and Sarah Jessica Parker have garnered media attention, surrogacy is not exclusive to the rich and famous. Many everyday people turn to surrogacy to build their families. Costs can vary widely depending on the state, the type of surrogacy, and specific arrangements – but it can be feasible. Numerous organizations and clinics offer financing options, grants, and payment plans to make surrogacy accessible to a broader range of people and couples.
Myth 2: Surrogates Are in It Only for the Money
Fact: Financial compensation is indeed a part of the surrogacy process, but it is not the sole or even primary motivation for most surrogates. Many women choose to become surrogates because they have a genuine desire to help others experience the joy of parenthood. They often have personal experiences or empathy for those struggling with infertility. Surveys and interviews with surrogates frequently reveal their deep sense of altruism and fulfillment from helping create families.
Myth 3: The Surrogate Will Want to Keep the Baby
Fact: This myth likely stems from confusion between surrogacy and adoption. In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate has no genetic link to the baby she carries. Surrogates go through extensive psychological screening to ensure they are emotionally prepared for the process and understand the commitment involved. Legal agreements are established before conception to protect the rights of all parties. Surrogates are generally fully aware and accepting of the fact that the baby they are carrying is not theirs to keep.
Myth 4: Surrogacy Is Unregulated and Unsafe
Fact: Surrogacy is actually highly regulated in many parts of the world to ensure the safety and well-being of all parties involved. Countries like the United States, where we’re based, have established comprehensive legal frameworks governing surrogacy agreements, medical procedures, and the rights of the surrogate and intended parents. Clinics follow strict medical protocols to safeguard the health of the surrogate and the baby. Prospective surrogates and intended parents undergo thorough medical and psychological evaluations to ensure they are suitable candidates for surrogacy.
Myth 5: Surrogacy is Only for Heterosexual Couples
Fact: Surrogacy is an inclusive family-building option accessible to a diverse range of people and couples, regardless of sexual orientation. LGBTQ+ people and couples, single parents, and heterosexual couples can all pursue surrogacy to create their families. The surrogacy process is designed to support various family structures, with many agencies and clinics offering services tailored to meet the unique needs of different intended parents. Surrogacy has become a viable and celebrated pathway to parenthood for anyone who dreams of having a child, promoting diversity and inclusivity in family formation.
Myth 6: Surrogacy is A Simple Process
Fact: Surrogacy is a beautiful opportunity, that can be a truly fulfilling experience for all parties – but it is not always a straightforward process. It’s a commitment, and just like pregnancy it can come with hurdles. Whether it’s a failed transfer, or the emotional ups and downs that come with the day to day of pregnancy – it’s critical that you know what you’re walking into.
Surrogacy is a complex and deeply personal journey that offers hope and fulfillment to countless people and couples worldwide. Dispelling these myths helps create a more informed and compassionate perspective on surrogacy, helping to recognize it as a legitimate and loving way to build families. By understanding the facts, we can better support those who choose this path and appreciate the profound impact surrogacy can have on creating new life and happiness.
